I'm not a vengeful person. I'm not into paybacks or retribution. I may not have the most fond feelings for someone that I've dated and broken up with in the past, but I'm not a hater. Recently I developed some old film in my camera that had some photos of an old boyfriend were on there. We'll call him Jeremy (because that's his name!). For purposes of this story however, I'll need to back up to the beginning of "the end."
I dated Jeremy for a couple of months last summer. Jeremy was in the middle of a divorce and had a slight drinking problem. Okay, he actually drank a whole lot ALL THE TIME. He was a functioning drinker in that he still maintained his friendships and went to work every day. But every night, the drunkfest was on. He probably managed to drink a 12-pack every night and much more on the weekends. As for me, I'm a social drinker. This was one of the many cruxes (cruxi?) of our problems.
Jeremy took me to Oklahoma to a cabin owned by some friends of his. There were 2 other couples that went and it should have been a GREAT weekend. The weekend started going in the shitter when Jeremy couldn't come pick me up at the designated meeting spot (getting driving directions to the cabin was apparently too intricate down in bubba-country where there are no road signs) because he was too drunk. It took me 3 hours to drive down from where I live to get to the meeting spot and 2.5 more hours to get 5 more miles to the cabin. Needless to say, SCOOBY WAS PISSED!!!! The rest of the weekend was ruined for me from there. But no, this wasn't "the end."
The following weekend Jeremy and I went with some other straight friends to meet our gay-boy friends at a gay bar. Jeremy had never been to a gay bar and was extremely hesitant. Once he got there, he had a fabu time though. My friends are fantastic, the music is good, the drinks are made well, and there's plenty to see. What more can you ask?
Nothing major happened to cause "the end" of Jeremy and I. I think I was just fed up. Fed up with his emotional baggage. Fed up with his drinking. Fed up with conflicting signals. So Jeremy and I ended things quite amicably. You know, the "let's be friends thing."
The following weekend, Jeremy has a date with another girl and calls me to get directions to take her to the gay bar he and I had gone to. MISTAKE #1. Jeremy sees my gay-boy friends there and "claims" to have a girl with him. MISTAKE #2. Following this, the gay-boys decided to refer to Jeremy as "Scooby's Gay Boyfriend" and proceeded to tease me about being the straw the broke the camels back claiming that I had made Jeremy switch teams. It's all been a good fun since then. A harmless joke. Following MISTAKES #1 and #2, I clearly let Jeremy know that he had burned his bridge with me and that I never wanted to hear from him again.
As we all know, time heals most wounds. I called Jeremy today to see if he was interested in receiving the photos from the cabin since most of them are of he and his friends (I was the sober photographer). Jeremy and I have a friendly and innocent conversation and catch up with what's been going on in our lives since we last spoke. Of his own accord, Jeremy apologizes for acting like such an asshole. SMALL VICTORY #1. During the course of the conversation, he also asks if I am married. I eagerly fill him in on the details of KC. I am curious to know if he's married, so I ask him. Turns out, he's not even dating someone. SMALL VICTORY #2.
My friend Flik never sees the point of keeping in touch with old boyfriends. TODAY she understands. Oh, the joy. SMALL VICTORY #3.
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I HATE and Avoid at all costs keeping in touch w/ old boyfriends. However, you are right today I see there are benefits. But seriously, what are the odds of Small Victory #3 happening again. :)
I'd agree with flick, I wouldn't even want to have the benefits of small victories. I don't like conflict after a break up, I even avoid my ex at all costs, sometimes taking ridiculous measures to do so. Of course, I was engaged to him, so that could be part of it.
Hmm Jeremy another affair to add to your list.
What arrogant cunt would humiliate her man by posting this shit about another man. You have hell to pay Candy Denise Wright. And its coming to collect.
Everyone always did call you the whore of the office. You thought it was funny, but we were serious.
Yeah only an arrogant bitch keeps in touch with ex boyfriends to try and find a reason to feel better than them. Yeah you burned our bridge and from what i hear his too. When does your bullshit ever end. I gave you a place to live and you used it to your full advantage. Im glad you're long gone.
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